Recent developments in my understanding of what certain family members opinion of my "taking care" of my parents during the some 20 years that I stayed with them have caused me to rethink the way they will be considered by myself and my wife in the future.
Please don't think that some of
the things I am doing, like missing my 40 year High School Reunion or saying
to a perfect son, "The Old Woman Finally Died",
when referring to my mother, means just a whole lot to someone that has been
Statement Date Payne Trust Payne Enterprises NBC Bank NBC Capital Market Account Total Capital In all accounts Oct-97 27035.69 1990.04 23700.13 $52,375.91 Nov-97 26636.57 1797.16 23942.05 $52,375.78 Dec-97 18259.93 508.79 24055.99 $42,824.71 Jan-98 18438.04 2911.83 24202.47 $45,552.34 Feb-98 12586.26 1278.48 24153.64 $38,018.38 Mar-98 No statement 1112.67 No statement $1,112.67 Apr-98 2124.11 775.72 19,045.12 $21,944.95 May-98 5811.06 145.4 15178.78 $21,135.24 Jun-98 5886.81 636.41 15158.35 $21,681.57 Jul-98 3457.26 1192.32 12661.71 $17,311.29 Aug-98 2365.98 2069.54 12661.71 $17,097.23 Sep-98 5828.38 1206.66 10218.19 $17,253.23 Oct-98 3382.79 2674.81 10183.94 $16,241.54 Nov-98 3429.81 1596.64 10197.64 $15,224.09 Dec-98 5974.21 1012.76 7704.35 $14,691.32 Jan-99 11205.11 2808.73 0 $14,013.84 Feb-99 10026.84 1511.37 0 $11,538.21 Mar-99 8872.73 808.37 0 $9,681.10 Apr-99 8889.75 368.49 0 $9,258.24 May-99 8903.39 368.49 0 $9,271.88 Jun-99 9286.02 0 0 $9,286.02 Jul-99 9303.83 0 0 $9,303.83 Aug-99 9318.1 0 0 $9,318.10 Oct-99 9350.29 0 0 $9,350.29 Nov-99 9364.64 0 0 $9,364.64 Dec-99 9186.78 0 0 $9,186.78 Jan-00 9204.37 0 0 $9,204.37 Feb-00 9218.45 0 0 $9,218.45 The trust continued until
the end of 2000 when a small distribution was made to each of the four
participants. The remainder was used
to pay for a Memorial for my mother among other small donations to charities. $0.00
discredited, spit on and incarcerated like myself. I have managed to
hold on to my honesty and some of my abilities so take care of stepping on
my toes. A small white lie to learn of a person's opinion can be corrected
but unfortunately large ones usually take many years. I am sure the
Hopson family know what I mean.
NBC Bank
Thank God my wife has no such stories regarding abuse by any of her family, and she still claims that her family were in many more ways less normal than mine. She thinks that the strictness shown to her family by her parents and their eventual divorce was to blame for her anger, well it sure is a better story than any fictitious story of sexual abuse. I must say that hearing lies from someone who used to be trusted has given me cause to not want that person close to either myself or my wife for a very long time.
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Now, I have worked with important people in the government, most of them think they are more important than they really are, and I have had occasion to actually meet through my brother, CIA members, and they were at times very helpful to me. So, don't think for a minute that I am a member of some top secret organization or even a member of a family that really gives a sh__ about me. As most of you, I take care of myself and the only other person I really care about, my wife. I don't believe in much of what the CIA does and was at times at odds with my brother because of it, but I assure you they are doing what they think is right and since we have no other Central Intelligence I guess we better stand behind them, so don't even think about jumping in front of them or they will run you over.
I also think that since she has taken it upon herself to express her
opinion of me that I will opt to put balances of the Payne Family Trust
that I administered from more than 20 years just to show that the
liquidity of that entity was at no time in jeopardy until it was turned
over to her and in fact grew in substantially through the years with
interest and investments through a small timber sale that I conducted
in 1996. I am sure any that want can check back and be assured that I
plan on doing just as I say.
Also at the same time you are deciding whether to allow your loved one to be cared for by a member of the family or by a care facility please consider what you expect for the quality of life for the loved one will be. Please consider their health at the the time, their financial situation and whether you "TURST" the person you assign the responsibility to care for your loved one with the financial responsibilities it might take to care for that loved one. A recent article in the Claiborne County Progress and online was distressing to me and I am sure to other family members who have the care of an aging loved one on their mind.
Because of a direct statement made to my wife recently by a family member, I am taking the time to put as much of the financial records that were gathered by an entity that my family called "Payne Family Trust" online in hopes that my family can see that for over 20 years the liquidity of that particular Trust was fluid up until it was handed over to another family member just a few months before my mother passed away.
The picture above was made of my mother in 1987, about six months after my father died. She had regained much of her strength from operations during 1980 and 1984 that had almost taken her life. During a trip to Tucson, Arizona with my brother Eddie and my Uncle Fate, my father suffered a heart attack. The trip took was rough on my father, who thought seriously about not making the trip, but since my Uncle and brother had planned it he didn't want to disappoint either. My brother had much planned for them, but before much of the trip in early 1986 could be accomplished my father suffered a very serious heart attack. Had it not been for the quick action of my brother Eddie, he would have died, but instead stayed a month in the hospital in Tucson. He returned home, where my mother and I were in Tazewell in May 1986 and was "deposited" there by my brother Phil. He was wheelchair bound when he returned to Tazewell. During the time between May and December when he suffered his fatal attack my sister Betsy visited twice, other than that no other immediate family member's came to Tazewell to visit other than my Aunt and Uncle Doug Wilson from Oak Ridge. I was driving back and forth to Knoxville, working for the Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation as a General Services and Facilities Clerk on a four, 10 hour day work week that usually started at 4:30AM.
Upon his death in December, my brother Eddie was working in Beijing, China. He was first to be contacted early in the morning of December 14th, his son David's birthday and the day my father died. It was late in the evening in Beijing as it was around NOON at home here in Tennessee. He was at the Embassy as I had contacted the State Department command center and they in turn had contacted him.
I continued to live at Northshore Wood Apts. with her until something happened that I felt warranted a move from that complex. Late one evening we both had been awakened by a fight coming from an apartment next door to us. We knew the person living there and knew that she had on occasion become a heavy drinker and party person, and noise often came from that apartment. I was working then for the Department of Energy, Oak Ridge, as a subcontract employer, a job I held for six and one-half years. That next morning as I watched the early morning news I saw and heard a news report of a death at our complex, Northshore Woods. It seems that a young lady had "fallen" from the railing of a third floor apartment and broken her neck. This was the next door neighbor who had been found dead after a fall from an older gentleman's landing just a few apartments from ours. Although several other neighbor's had heard a fight and apparently a struggle from the young woman's apartment and later outside and upstairs in this older man's apartment, the short investigation that the Knoxville Police held did not find enough evidence to convince them that this woman had actually been pushed over this landing that was probably about 2/3 as high as the woman's own height. I decided to look into moving my mother to a nicer apartment complex, Deane Hill Apartments where a lady that she often talked on the phone lived. My nephew, Adam Payne, helped me move my mother to that apartment.
Some of those family members have been quick to discredit me and
my reputation in an effort to gain for themselves either some monetary
or moral gain. One piece of work that my brother Phil presented
to my brother Eddie was the letter below. During 1996, knowing that the
possibility of my mother needing more care than I had offered her the
last 10 years in a small apartment, her health deteriorating more with
age, I decided to add to the already generous amount that we had saved
from the sale of my father's house in 1987. I had contracted a Forestry
expert to survey timber on the 145 acre farm that my family owned and
had gotten signatures from my sister and brother to hold a selective
timber cut. It was a very successful cut having been inspected by not
only the forestry expert but in proof by those
that profited greatly by the sale of the property only 5 years after
this, so called RAPE OF LAND that I had done. It also added another
$15,000 to our family Trust. My brother tried his best to turn one
against another by sending the letter to the right to his younger
brother. He was continually trying to discredit me and my efforts of
caring for my parents. I have put more than 20 pages of just some of the contracts and correspondence that took place during 1995-96 and 97
to see that this contract was in a manner that anyone should approve
of. This shows the lack of concern by all of my family towards the
handling of my parents affairs. Only when it became clear that we were
actually going to finally REAP the benefit from their estate did it
become so important that we COME TOGETHER, not while they were living
though.
People that I trusted and people that, in growing up in rural Claiborne County, had some little part in forming my spiritual or moral character seemed to be swayed by all these lies and innuendo's coming from people jealous of what I was doing for my parents.. I found the most recent innuendo from a close family member from something that was told to my wife, who has been taking radiation treatments for the last six weeks, and has had no contact with any member of my family during this duration. I can only surmise that these close family members have again taken it upon themselves to disparage either something in my recent marriage or my actions since getting married over four years ago.
When
my wife and I first moved to Claiborne County in 2004 from Knoxville,
my wife began a job in the laundry department of Claiborne County
Hospital. She had worked for several years at Shannondale Nursing Home
in the Personal and the normal laundry department there. She worked at
the hospital for about two
years and can attest to the comment above. Her trips to the nursing
home facility were not that often but each time she went she noticed
things that were not common at the Shannondale facility she worked in
Knoxville. One particular occurrence that happened frequently was that
the facility allowed patients to lay in their feces rather than use
briefs as they did at the Shannondale facility. She can explain that to
you if you want to email her at amyrinker40@aol.com.
Now, if this is considered by anyone a form of communication I want them to know that it is the only form that I have chosen to take and therefore consider it that. From those close family members I have heard such falsehoods as either they had no idea that my wife and I were going through a time of distress with her treatment and recovery or that they had no idea I was even married. If they remember anything about me they will know that my character was formed very early on in life as I know theirs was too, and I consider that the basis for any further contact I will have with them.
I would discourage anyone that has this unfortunate regard for my ability to continue to shun both myself and my wife, but if on the other hand you come to my web site often and know that my concern both for my parents in the past and my wife in the future were and are genuine, feel free to contact either of us at any time.
Here to the left are some video's of the last of several video's I have of my mother as she grew more indigent in her later years. Also, a contradictory video of my sister's confession that she had very little to do with the day to day care of my mother the entire time that I lived with her in Knoxville. It was with much coaxing and the complete control of over $80,000.00 of family money that she agreed to care for her the last eight months of her life. In the mean time I thought that the following article was interesting regarding "Dealing with aging parents'" and the way you choose to do that. Long live the Freedom of Information Act because it does give me lots to do.
